I’ve done readings for many “first-timers!” First, relax. I’m not a mind-reader; I don’t know everything you have ever said or done in your life. I’ll bring in spirit, get identifying, evidential information about them, and see what they want to communicate. Frequently they’ll describe what kind of person you are and give some information about you as well. This helps establish that this spirit knows you.

As the reading progresses, I’ll ask you questions to make sure the information I’m giving you is accurate. We usually end up having a great conversation as we discuss the information that comes through.

A successful reading is a combination of you, me, and the spirit(s). Be open and allow the reading to evolve in its own way. Don’t ask for certain information – Spirit decides what needs to be communicated and if you’re asking for specific information, this will take me out of the natural flow and move me into “thinking” mode. Instead, let’s trust that spirit will guide us to what we need to know. Most of the time I have no idea what I’m talking about; they may not give me details about your life situations but they will give you messages they think are important. If you don’t understand something, let me know and we’ll see if we can figure it out. 

It’s very helpful if you have an open mind during a reading. If you’re looking for a certain person to communicate with you, set your intention ahead of time and invite them to join us. They do hear you! That being said, it is all spirit-driven; the spirits decide who is going to come based on their need. While you may hope to talk to one person in particular, it is best if you are open to whoever comes in, to receive the message they want to give you.

**If you are looking for a specific spirit to provide a certain piece of information to “prove” it’s really them, the energy will shut down. Mediums work to provide hope, healing, inspiration….if you’re trying to “test” the medium, that kind of energy will block the natural flow of information. Stay open!

Unfortunately, no! I may be misinterpreting information, not getting all of it, or be wrong. But a vast majority of the time, the spirit is communicating clearly and we’ll receive accurate information. I’ve also found that sometimes, when we’re unsure of the evidence, it turns out to be correct after a bit of thought or research on the client’s part. It’s wise to take everything under consideration and remember things that we were unsure of.

Yes, you can but it can block our energy flow. I spent a whole reading trying to avoid talking to an “undesired” spirit and it was exhausting. Please consider listening to their message first, in case it is healing or helpful; they may want to apologize. Once we get their message, we can let them go. 

All mediums work in different ways. I sense and feel them through my body. I may feel their physical issues or I might move or talk like they did.  Sometimes I just “know” things. The spirit is coming through me, not from me. I’m a channel for the energy. Frequently a spirit is exactly the way they were when they were here in the physical. If your grandmother was a big talker, she’s probably still talking!

Spirit will communicate what they think is important. For example, a certain spirit may want to tell you they’re sorry for the way they treated you or to congratulate you on your growth as a person, etc. In my experience, they frequently want to give you messages of reassurance. They want you to know they’re OK and they want to encourage you to live your life with as much meaning and fun as possible.

Some spirits do like to give advice. Remember, you have free will and can do whatever you want. The future is not set in stone – YOU are the one making the choices to shape your future. Another point to consider is would you have listened to that person’s advice when they were here?

I don’t believe in evil spirits. I have yet to meet one. I have however, met some spirits who were not very nice in their lifetime and were a bit “grumpy” on the other side as well. If that’s the case, they frequently want to apologize for their behavior…and if they don’t, we’ll let them know they can leave the reading.

Once every six months or more seems to work well. More frequently and you won’t have time to process and the spirits may not have anything new to say!